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10 questions to spark meaningful conversation (and avoid small talk)

Becki
December 27, 2021

The festive season is upon us. You (might!) be going to parties, gatherings, or your work’s Christmas do.

Those things usually involve *small talk*.

Honestly, I’m not a fan. I hate talking about the weather, my work, or the news with someone I’ve just met. I dread the moment they turn to me and ask, “how are you?” or, “so what do you do?”. 😳

It feels like such a WASTED opportunity for connection.

So I’ve been on a mission to find better, more meaningful ways to spark conversation that take people by surprise and create deep chats with strangers—without freaking them out. 😂

Today, I’m sharing my favourite questions with you.

(You can also use these with people you already know. I’ve been doing this and it’s revealed so much goodness about my loved ones! ✨)

Here are my top 10 small-talk-avoidance questions:

  • What are you passionate about right now?
  • Anything you’re obsessed with at the moment?
  • What makes you feel most alive?
  • What do you want to be when you grow up?
  • Do you have any hidden talents?
  • What do you like to do for fun?
  • When do you feel most like “yourself”?
  • What’s been the highlight of your day so far?
  • What energises you?
  • Did anything make you smile today?

If it feels too awkward to ask these, preface it by saying something like, “instead of asking you what you do for a living like I normally would, let’s try something different”.

Be bold, give it a shot, and see if it changes the types of convos you get into.

Here’s to eradicting small talk!

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Becki

Becki Sams is a mindfulness teacher and expert on women's health, wellbeing, and empowerment (one client even calls her “the womb whisperer”!). Her work’s been featured in Glamour, Metro, Thrive Global, and TinyBuddha. Becki leads courses, workshops, and women’s circles to share sanity-saving tools for people-pleasers who've spent their lives being the "kind, flexible one". Her offerings will teach you how to confidently set boundaries, stand up for yourself, and ask for what you want *without* sacrificing your needs. Download her free 3 scripts to say no (without feeling rude, guilty, or hurting anyone's feelings)... and don't forget to say hi!

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