You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens. – Mandy Hale
Ah, the sweet practice of surrender.
The awful, difficult, infuriating practice of surrender.
Surrendering to “what is” (i.e. accepting life exactly the way it is, and letting go of my need to control the outcome) has been my #1 challenge this year.
It’s also been a great teacher -unlocking a power within me that I never knew existed.
The power to manifest. For REALS.
What is manifesting?
Technically, we’re all manifesting, all the time.
We bring things from our imagination (the unmanifest) into the physical world (the manifest).
Most of the time, we do this unconsciously. We can’t help it; we’re manifesting machines.
The problem is, we often manifest stuff we don’t want, or that doesn’t serve our highest good.
This happens when we mindlessly sleepwalk through life – without bringing conscious awareness to our thoughts, actions, and desires.
For example, let’s say I’m going through a breakup.
It would be safe to assume that I’d be pretty stressed out about this, and that it’d occupy most of my attention.
What we focus on expands – so even though I might say I wanna get over my ex by getting under someone new, my mind’s yakkin’ on about my breakup all the time.
According to the Law of Attraction, the universe then receives my thoughts about this breakup and says “oh, you’re so passionate about being miserable! Here’s some more for ya, on me”.
The dual powers of attention and intention
Attention, therefore, is a big frickin’ deal.
And us humans are flawed. Our minds constantly jump from the past (brooding over our ex) to the future (planning how to meet someone on Tinder) and back again.
We gain control over our attention by training ourselves to focus on the present.
When we’re focused on the present moment, we can completely surrender to the outcome – which is the only way we can effectively manifest our desires.
Think about how often we try to control all the variables in our life to ensure everything unfolds exactly the way we want it to:
- How often does it actually work out?
- Does trying to control everything ever really make a difference?
- And, more importantly, how much unnecessary stess do we experience as a result?
I mean, let’s face it: control is an illusion.
We have precisely zero control over much of what happens to us.
Our intention, however, we can control.
And true manifesting power comes from setting an intention for the future, whilst simultaneously placing our attention on the present.
My super secret manifesting sauce(s)
You’d think that the spiritual knowledge bomb I just dropped would be the secret, right?
But nope. Old news. This stuff’s been around for millenia.
The true secret to manifesting lies in how we apply this knowledge – how we choose to work with it in our own lives.
Anyone who knows me will know that, personally, I’m a ritual junkie; I have rituals for everything.
New or full moon? Got a ritual for it. Solstice or equinox approaching? Let’s do a ritual! Entering the winter of my menstrual cycle? Yup, I’m feelin’ a ritual.
I’ve created the manifesting rituals I’m about to share according to my understanding of the world – so take what appeals to you, and feel free to leave the rest.
1. Trusting the flow of life
If we want to surrender to “what is” and activate our manifesting power, we have to become okay with things being messy in our lives.
Seriously. We gotta embrace the mess.
This is coming from someone who would love for life to always be perfectly in order, all neat and tidy with a lil’ bow on top.
But the truth is that if we simply let go of how we think it should unfold, and instead trust that the universe has our back, we open ourselves up to infinite possibility.
This requires a daily practice of presence.
It’s (near-constant) noticing – and letting go of – any thoughts of “how” our intention will come into fruition.
It’s making peace with unfinished business.
Try this: resist the urge to plan how your desire will happen, and keep your attention on the present moment as often as possible. Practicing meditation on a daily basis (for at least 10 minutes) will help.
2. Working with the moon
Since I started practicing moon rituals – keeping tabs on the intentions I set and how they manifested – I’ve been absolutely astounded by the results.
I personally see the moon as an extremely powerful force in my life, but I know it’s not enough on its own to bring my desires into fruition.
Working consciously with the moon’s energies (as well as our own – see #4) simply helps to amplify our manifesting power.
It also helps me surrender to mother nature’s cycles, and to understand that regardless of my personal desires, I’m a small part of a much greater universal orchestra.
Fun fact: universe = uni verse = one song. Mind… BLOWN.
Plus, the new moon is the perfect time for intention-setting!
Try this: track the moon’s phases using an app or website (I use MyMoonPhase, and it’s free). On the new moon, try out this intention-setting ritual, and release attachment to the outcome by trusting the flow of life (see #1).
3. Creating more space
Our hypermasculine, goal-oriented, yang culture doesn’t really respect resting.
But the more space we make (both mentally and physically), the more of a vacuum we create for the universe to enter, and work its magic.
To do this, we need to recognise our own need to rest, and prioritise this as a potent form of self-care.
This means giving ourselves permission to rest.
Rest is vital because it often enables us to enter a state of deep relaxation. Essentially, we practice surrendering to life; allowing ourselves to be carried by life’s tides, so our desires can manifest freely.
It’s in this state that I find I’m able to access a level of consciousness that I just can’t reach when I’m busy running around trying to manage all my errands.
Try this: tell yourself it’s okay to rest. Then do it. Often! Daily if possible. Practice delegating, doing the bare minimum to get by, and leaving things unfinished at times (see #1). Try to spend more time “being”, and less time “doing”.
4. Honouring my bleed
As women, we also have an in-built divine connection portal which opens itself up to us during our menstruation (sorry, dudes!).
To tap in to this spiritual superpower, it’s absolutely crucial that we learn how to truly surrender to what life is trying to present to us.
Menstruation is our “inner new moon”; it’s when we’re most open and receptive to guidance from our higher self, which we can then use to set our intentions.
This guidance often comes in the form of ideas – divine inspiration, if you will.
To access this incredible state, all we have to do is:
- Stay present
- Work with our current energy
Basically, we put #1-3 into practice.
In my experience, menstruation is a time when I receive endless inspiration and clarity on the direction I need to take – this forces me to reassess my desires, and set intentions to manifest that which is aligned with my highest good.
Try this: rest, meditate, and journal as much as you can on the first few days of your bleed. Practice slowing down as you come into your premenstrual phase by honouring your body’s natural cycle (similar to #2) and create space for yourself to rest as you bleed (see #3).